the correct manual is the only one normally recommended, bentley, look for your year and model, should cover both gas, v6 or vr6, +diesel. &if there are more than one diesel/td model for that year. i have a red 84 manual,iirc. next you need tools, a vw takes mostly metric tools, best to start 5mm wrenches&sockets, up to 19mm, some are larger, some fit std sizes, so a full set of them is good, have small std sizes, like 1/4 is very useful. 8mm,10mm,13mm,17mm,19mm are some of the more common sizes, with all other sizes needed at one time or,,std sizes are used(sometimes), like i find the tie rod Adjustment, on tie rod is 7/8". (and tie rod takes another 7/8" as well, for 2). some sizes such as 13/16",15/16" can be useful, you need 1/4",3/8",1/2" socket and ratchet, bar sets. you need deep sockets, allen keys/sockets, some may take star or torks, some take 12pt, special. other general tools, screwdrivers, pliers, etc, you may get as far as timing tools, if you want to get fancy and are confident. do you have mech lifters or hydro lifters, if you have mech lifters, you need the tool, &shims.
as far as getting into fixing your self, a basic knowledge of automobiles in general goes a long way,,your brakes are your most important part,to start, so brakes, tires, and suspension being in good shape is going to keep you going. knowing 1st basic maintenance of motor & trans, and driveline, stuff like cv joints even wheel bearings, and checking oil, changing oil, air filter, fuel filter, glow plugs. being able to troubleshoot electrical problems, etc. then a deeper understanding of a motor, in this case a diesel or td.
getting the work right the first time and it goes easier, sometimes in getting it right you find an easier way to get the work done.
1st thing for a car buy, air/fuel filters prob should change just like that, fuel filter is best to prime(from inlet). id prob get a good oil flush and flush out oil, change, w/filter. check brakes, suspension &stuff like tires. a lot of times i swap out new parts on all these things, and align in the end. timing belt sounds like it needs to be done soon, theres more you do than just the belt, new water pump and coolant, while your doing that id change the oil cooler seal/o-ring. front end seals too. some other things, wheel bearings, suspension rubbers(bushings), they may need to be pressed in. youve got a fairly light for a big vehicle and that small motor has to move it(quite a bit for motors size).auto or stick?take it easy on clutch/trans.prob change manual trans lube, i do prefer a good syn transaxle lube here, and you can do it in a trans without worry.