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Am I Really That Bad?!
by
R.O.R-2.0
on 09 Dec, 2011 17:57
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so, lately, ive had some users being very negative towards me, and i just wanted to know why?
i say something thats not sugar coated quite right, and a few select users like to rip my head off..
if i were doing something wrong, wouldnt more people let me know, rather than a few select people that b!tc# about everything?
90% of the users seem to have no problems with me, or what i say.. but, theres always gotta be someone to ruin the fun, eh?
anyways, i made a comment about an item for sale, and a fellow forum user (not associated with the same in any way) started jumping down my throat about the comments i made..
anyways, WTF am i doing so wrong?
i know i am a bit TOO blunt sometimes, and i dont sugar coat what i say.. i know i come off as abrasive sometimes, but WHY, OH WHY, would someone 2500 miles from me choose to be a dick about nothing?
i know theres quite a few people on here who ENJOY reading what i have to write, then theres the pissy patties that i have TRIED to be civil to, and they just turn around and pick arguements all over again..
im really looking for input from some of my fellow forum users. i dont care if you say im an ass**** and need to lighten up, or if you say im too soft and need to toughen up, whatever, please let me know..
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#1
by
8v-of-fury
on 09 Dec, 2011 18:38
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You used to be a dik.. But you've since lightened up a whole bunch!!
Imagine what he was like before people...
Lmfao! Does this count as a butthurt form? Lol love ya bro
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#2
by
Luckypabst
on 09 Dec, 2011 18:39
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Honestly, there are times when I cringe and avoid certain discussions that you weigh in on (not exclusively you; there are quite a few others as well); but I usually do just that, I avoid and ignore. No harm, no foul.
And I just checked that for sale ad - I see nothing wrong with your first post at all: I see what appears to be excessive clearance in that photo as well. In this case, even if someone gets offended and challenges you, you don't have to respond. The issue would die right there. It's a lot easier to state your view and only address the legitimate questions that may follow.
On the other hand, sometimes you just gotta respect a person's right to sell what they want for how much they want. Classifieds have always been conducted as a 'buyer beware' sort of affair... you don't have to point out every little fallacy you notice, especially if you aren't involved in the transaction.
But if you know you're blunt and abrasive, why not tone it down a bit?
More generally, I notice some members here that can't let a topic alone, that seem to need to get the last word in, no matter what and from my very unscientific estimate, a lot of it seems to be from the young, green guys. Are you young and green? That's only something you can answer...
Anyway... you asked. That's my take.
Chris
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#3
by
R.O.R-2.0
on 09 Dec, 2011 18:40
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Jeremy, nothing you say could hurt my feelings, unless you were actually TRYING to..
some people just rub me the WRONG way..
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#4
by
R.O.R-2.0
on 09 Dec, 2011 18:46
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Honestly, there are times when I cringe and avoid certain discussions that you weigh in on (not exclusively you; there are quite a few others as well); but I usually do just that, I avoid and ignore. No harm, no foul.
And I just checked that for sale ad - I see nothing wrong with your first post at all: I see what appears to be excessive clearance in that photo as well. In this case, even if someone gets offended and challenges you, you don't have to respond. The issue would die right there. It's a lot easier to state your view and only address the legitimate questions that may follow.
On the other hand, sometimes you just gotta respect a person's right to sell what they want for how much they want. Classifieds have always been conducted as a 'buyer beware' sort of affair... you don't have to point out every little fallacy you notice, especially if you aren't involved in the transaction.
But if you know you're blunt and abrasive, why not tone it down a bit?
More generally, I notice some members here that can't let a topic alone, that seem to need to get the last word in, no matter what and from my very unscientific estimate, a lot of it seems to be from the young, green guys. Are you young and green? That's only something you can answer...
Anyway... you asked. That's my take.
Chris
that was basically the answer i expected.. i AM young, and hard headed.. but NOT green.. ive been working on all things mechanical since i can remember..
i asked, so im not going to be mad at what anyone has to say..
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#5
by
Luckypabst
on 09 Dec, 2011 18:50
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Right on. You got no hard feelings on my end. I'm sure we could wrench and BS just fine in person.
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#6
by
R.O.R-2.0
on 09 Dec, 2011 18:54
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Right on. You got no hard feelings on my end. I'm sure we could wrench and BS just fine in person.
there are alot of you that i feel i could wrench with, bs, drink beer, whatever.. and get along just great.
then there are a few that i feel i would be beating there face in with a 18" crescent wrench after no more than 5 minutes with them..
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#7
by
R.O.R-2.0
on 09 Dec, 2011 19:00
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im just tired of a few certain users making a HUGE deal out of nothing.. i mean, im equally guilty, but i AVOID maning a big deal out of nothing..
like the arguement about how 3.67 gears are not suitable for a diesel, that arguement was about pointless.. theres LOTS AND LOTS of people running 3.67 gear sets behind TD and N/A engines just fine!!
and the remarks i got from a user because i commented about what i THOUGHT was too much side clearance.. the original poster could have chimed in and said that "it just looks that way in the pics", or that it didnt actually have that much clearance..
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#8
by
rallydiesel
on 09 Dec, 2011 19:22
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You sir, are worse than Hitler.
No seriously, it's just the interwebz. You've got lots of info and experience to share. Don't worry about it.
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#9
by
R.O.R-2.0
on 09 Dec, 2011 19:26
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You sir, are worse than Hitler.
No seriously, it's just the interwebz. You've got lots of info and experience to share. Don't worry about it.
thanks for the good laugh.. i really needed it
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#10
by
bajacalal
on 09 Dec, 2011 19:34
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im just tired of a few certain users making a HUGE deal out of nothing.. i mean, im equally guilty, but i AVOID maning a big deal out of nothing..
like the arguement about how 3.67 gears are not suitable for a diesel, that arguement was about pointless.. theres LOTS AND LOTS of people running 3.67 gear sets behind TD and N/A engines just fine!!
and the remarks i got from a user because i commented about what i THOUGHT was too much side clearance.. the original poster could have chimed in and said that "it just looks that way in the pics", or that it didnt actually have that much clearance..
If this were real life, and you were a bystander to a couple people engaged in a commercial transaction, and you piped up to criticize the product for sale, what do you think would happen? How would people respond? I'm not saying you're wrong, but I don't see why it's any different on the internet. People will be offended and think it's rude to do this.
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#11
by
maxfax
on 09 Dec, 2011 19:37
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To someone who is not familiar with how you are you could come off as gruff so to speak... But on the other side of things, it amazes me how thin skinned people are via a comment posted electronically, thousands of miles away, from a little box, connected to a wire versus in person.. Call someone an idiot on Facebook and you may as well have killed their first born.. Do it in person and by some means or another it's over with...
Best thing about you Kevin is that you will admit when your wrong about something..
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#12
by
R.O.R-2.0
on 09 Dec, 2011 19:57
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To someone who is not familiar with how you are you could come off as gruff so to speak... But on the other side of things, it amazes me how thin skinned people are via a comment posted electronically, thousands of miles away, from a little box, connected to a wire versus in person.. Call someone an idiot on Facebook and you may as well have killed their first born.. Do it in person and by some means or another it's over with...
Best thing about you Kevin is that you will admit when your wrong about something..
yup, im pretty good about owning up to it when im wrong..
but oh boy, tell me im wrong, when i know
for fact im right, thats a good way to set me off.
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#13
by
mystery3
on 09 Dec, 2011 20:59
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Sometimes you come across with a "know it all" type attitude as if you've tried every combination of things on these cars but I've gathered from reading many of your posts that your probably much younger than I and I was a dickhead when I was young. I don't know if that helps but I can see how you might be misinterpreted or rub someone the wrong way especially if they're not familiar with your interweb persona. I also think you are out to help people and share information.
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#14
by
theman53
on 09 Dec, 2011 21:05
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I think you used to be bad, not really anymore. I naturally tend to want to stand up if I know I am right as well, it bothers me more when I prove it and people are still not convinced. I try to stay out of commenting in the for sale threads that aren't mine...unless I want to buy obviously.
I sent this to myself and a couple people a while back. It puts things into perspective and makes me laugh.
