Does the oil leak between the tube and the block? or the stick and the tube? It could be that the vacuum line that runs to the brake booster is sucking air in to the block and pressurizing oil out of the holes. Check to make sure this isn't the problem.. because if it is.. it will also drink the oil too by pressing it past rings and up through the crank vent.
what washer are you talking about? ive never seen a washer on there before. my dip stick tupe seats right down in the block with a little rubber oring around it. block->oring->dipstick tube.. never had a problem with mine, except for when i was running a stock 1.5 dip stick on a boosted engine, the oil just flew out the dipstick hole. and never before have i laid hands on this stupid washer you are talking about.
know where i can find a replacement?