Greetings from the great white north... and yes, we had snow this weekend. Thanks so much for bringing up such a painful subject.. next time just give me a paper cut and pour lemon juice on it why dontcha.... ;-
But I digress...
Yes there are several different relays in circulation, and if you really have an 81 Rabbit your OEM relay was a slow rather than a fast, even with the turbo.
As you've learned with your test light the yellow LED has very little to do with when power is actually applied to the plugs, and the relay will make different decisions based on engine temperature. In addition, some provide "afterglow" and some don't, again dependent on engine temp.
If you can find the 9 digit part number we can look up your relay and perhaps tell you more about what to expect.
BTW, in the GWN we tend to use slow relays, or no relay at all (pushbutton and Ford starter solenoid).. need all the glow we can get !!!
Vince