you can add a very slight amount of propane to an IDI. it's just the inherent nature of the engine. the pre-chamber gets extremely hot and can actually pre-ignite the propane. however since the DI engines do not have pre-chambers, they respond much better to propane injection.
i would say that you could add as much nitrous to a diesel engine as you want without adverse side effects. i guess there is a point where too much would kill the engine, but not blow it up. nitrous oxide on an N/A would be the equivalent to running a turbo with an intercooler IMO. running it in conjunction with a turbo and intercooler would make for a really quick ride. i can already envision the blown head gaskets from the cylinder pressures

just remember that nitrous oxide permits burning of additional fuel in the engine. propane assists the combustion of diesel fuel, but will definitely not give the type of performance boost you'll get with NO2.
you can put the nozzle right in the manifold as long as it is close to all 4 ports, as much as you can so that there is no bias. go a little upstream if you need, just to ensure equal NO2 distribution. putting the nozzle before the intercooler will ensure that it has a good mix, but will most likely warm the NO2 negating the cooling effect. a heat shield and some insulation around the intake mani might be a good idea as it is very close to the exhaust mani and will definitely get heat soak. a 2 stage setup would be ideal, but as stated, the progressive setup is much better, as it will not waste NO2 like the 2 stage setup will.
this electronic boost controllerthis link has everything you need for a progressive setup. minus the solenoid valve, unless it is capable of handing upward of 80 psi or so. (for safety reasons). i'm 99% sure it runs on a mosfet type controller that manages how the solenoid valve opens. it will open it at certain intervals depending on the knob position. the problem will be somehow tying that into the system, either by boost pressure (ideal), or pedal position, or a combination of the two. a linear potentiometer might be the ticket for a pedal actuated system... the NO2 will not spool the turbo without fuel.
or you could simply put a switch for full throttle.
wow this new forum really makes it difficult to write long posts... as i'm typing this iy reverts the slider bar midway so i can't see what im typing