Couldn't be too bothered to read the whole thread (sorry) but i run 25+psi on an AAZ and previously on a 1.6td MF block and i absolutely had to use an MLS metal head gasket and ARP studs (because they dont stretch) otherwise i would destroy a head gasket everytime i even saw the boost gauge go anywhere near 20psi.
I was just doing a coolant flush last night and stripped one bolt on the thermostat housing and now it's going to be a you know what, to change because I have to pull the injector pump because the top left hand bolt I can't get a wrench on because of the injector pump bracket! I have a spare housing so it won't cost me anything, just about 4-5 hours to change....