try giving the buss bar (that connects all four gp's) 12v's for 10-15 seconds with a jumper cable from the battery and see if it will make a difference then.
If you have power at the glowplugs then the relay is working.
If I do this and it starts, This is telling me that the GP's are good, and if so then where do you think the problem lies?
Is that basically bypassing the stock relay?
Can I bench check the relay to make sure?