try getting stuck in 2nd gear about 25 miles from home..
gear shift was in "neutral" but let the clutch out and you took off in 2nd gear.
before that, i was just driving it around in 3, 4, 5th gears..
i would use low range, 3rd gear to take off, and then grab 4th in low, then shift back to high, then grab 3rd again, then 4th, then 5th!
this was not in a vw tho. and it was because the shift fork retainer bolt broke its head off. then somehow it found its way into 2nd gear, and i had no way to get it out of gear!
anyway, hope you get your problems figured out.
and dont be scared, transmissions are not nearly as scary inside as they may seem. they are very simple.