I've had good luck with duraterms as well so far. I too can remember hillfolk's experience with them back years ago. It was clockwork to replace one at least every season.I seem to get two years or so out of a set of duraterms at least, but that's just a so-so guess still.
I've had the same glow plugs in Jezzie for 5 years now.Duraterms take care of the first two points as they are self-protecting. If you are eating plugs that fast then I'd check out your installation procedure and your injectors - there really is no reason for them to be failing that quickly.
I think my Prothes were 4 years old when I replaced them with duraterms. All 6 still test good. Curiously, the Prothes show ~1000F on the pyrometer, while the Duraterms stabilize at about 580, but heat more of the tip.Both start equally well.
After years of using audio analysis of fingertip sizzling sounds, I got a laser that figures it out for me. Seems pretty accurate, except dry ice goes off the scale around -45FIIRC it was the ...008 PN from Rockauto got me glows in duraterm boxes at least.