Is this electrostatic in nature? Quick: someone drag around a chunk of log chain to ground the body and see if this helps!
Replace your trunk/hatch seal with new weatherstrip and patch that hole. I've noticed something about these cars. The air flows "the wrong way" if the front windows are open. It flows from the back towards the front. I guess this is due to the Venturi or Bernoulli effect or maybe both. This seems to be more pronounced in the earlier Volkswagen Golf/Jetta than it is in other cars, which have better ventilation, and is the worst when only the front window is open, which draws in exhaust from the rear, if the exhaust can get into the car. Opening a rear window negates the effect.
I bet if you were to somehow measure the amount of air that's entering your car in the rear, in cubic feet, you would come up with a pretty big number over 100 miles. You say you have an aftermarket exhaust. Where does it terminate? If it's before the bumper, a lot of exhaust can be drawn in the cabin, even at highway speed.
theres a guy down the street i pay to suck farts out of my car seats, next time i go i'll see if he does soot or if theres anything he recommends.
lol the glitter.well anyway, i'm glad this thread formed, because my exhaust is comprised of mostly large leaks in various places, and it's likely i'm breathing this stuff in! i didn't think about the low pressure/venturi effect!so i've opened my summer a/c vent and just diffused it.glad ya'll mentioned this; wifey says i smell like soot every time i get home.. i quit smokin two years ago!