If you're running the fiber gasket (not the MLS one), then follow these procedures:
Stage 1: 40 nM
Stage 2: 60 nM
Stage 3: 180 degrees. You can do it in 90 degree increments
Stage 4: Warm up car to 50C. Retorgue an additional 90 degrees
Stage 5: With the newer gaskets, this is "optional". If you see seepage, you might want to do it. Also, if you're running higher than average boost, you'll want to do this.
The "give" you felt was likely the bolts stretching. If they continue to stretch, I'd say don't torque them anymore.
This is a bit of a gray area for VW. I'm not sure why they couldn't just give a simple sequence with a final torque value like just about every other car manufacturer. I doubt that they followed their own procedures when the built the motors in the first place.
While there are a lot of factors involved in the final torque values, namely the type of lubricant used on the bolts (WD-40 is best), tensile strength of the bolts (they should all be the same, but with bolts made in China, who knows), etc., I've found that the finished result hangs in the 100-120 ft-lbs range. Sometimes a bit higher, but rarely lower than about 105. After the complete cold sequence, I usually go over the lot and make sure my wrench clicks at about 105 ft-lbs. If not, I tighten them up to that point. After the reheat, I set the wrench to 115 and do the final 1/4 turn. If they click before then, then fine, if not, I push them up to 115. That's just me being a bit anal, but it works for me. Since you've already done the cold sequence, I'd set the wrench to 115 for the reheat and see if you get it to click. If not, go until it does. If you feel any bolt give, then just do the 1/4 turn.
If you used anything other than simple WD-40 on the bolts (or whatever pre-lube came on them), then you may have already exceeded the tensile strength for stretch.