i am just running good ol sylvania sealed halogens 
do the lows have two filaments? is that how they dim when highs are selected?
Guessing this would be the car in your avatar picture over <- there?
If yes, and you're running a 4x rectangular sealed beam, yes, you have two filaments in your low beam lights (which would be why the plug has three wires on it, instead of just the two that your high beams have.
Aimed properly, the second filament in the low beam lamp should put their light a little bit further out than the low beam filament, which might make you think it's "dimmer." You're seeing the same amount of light, but put further away from you.
Are your headlamps upside down? Believe me, it can make a
huge difference in visibility. :oops:
Simply adding a relay to shorten the trip and resistance between the battery and your headlamps will enormously improve the quality, brightness and longevity of your headlights. If you want to get fancy, get something like Dan's harness. There are also companies that make a mini harness that plugs into one side of your headlight circuit to get the triggers it needs.
If you want to make your own relayed headlights, drop me a PM. I have it all written out. I haven't done an A platform car, but only the wire colours are platform specific.