Ok well heres a quote from Banks site to support your turbo theory jimfoo"Which parts will fail first is a matter of the design and materials used in the various parts of the turbo-diesel, but usually it starts with the turbocharger. Under sustained excessive EGT, the square corners at the outer ends of the vanes, where the material is thinnest on the turbine wheel, can become incandescent and then melt, resulting in a rounding off of the square corners."This still does nothing to answer my gas vs. diesel question though
If you are towing, buy a petrol.