This just in from TDI club...I have been searching for days...
"I GOT IT!!!!!
So, after doing a little more digging using the link Yblocker provided and a little work in ETKA... you will all like this.
The AAA VR6 pressure plate in ETKA is part #021 141 025 F.
That cross-references to Sach's part #3082 231 031.
The TDI pressure plate in ETKA is part #074 141 025 B
You'll never guess what that cross-references to.
3082 231 031
YUP. Same damn pressure plate!!!!
SO, the answer is (runonbeer was unwittingly correct!) use the Mk3/B4 TDI clutch kit! The pressure plate is the same and the disk is rattle-free.
So, everyone remember the part number runonbeer referenced: K7003801
The hell with the VR6 kit!
Well, this has been enlightening."
From this thread
http://forums.tdiclub.com/showthread.php?t=340137&page=2another good thread
http://forums.tdiclub.com/showthread.php?t=310218&highlight=smf+clutchthat is what I am going to go with.